Bling August 16, 2010
Posted by missalid in Getting Engaged, In Awe.3 comments
Some days I sit and stare at my engagement ring.
I just love the way it sparkles. đ
Getting from there to here July 21, 2010
Posted by missalid in Falling In Love, Getting Engaged, It Can Happen to You!.9 comments
It happened on Saturday, July 3rd in the third hour of the afternoon.
I.GOT.ENGAGED!
Can you believe it? Because I still find myself shaking my head and pinching myself in disbelief. Iâll get to the proposal details later.
Whatâs most important, he asked. And I said yes.
Itâs been quite a two weeks since âThe Momentâ. Many friends and family have called, emailed and sent postal notes of congratulations to us from across the globe. I have new Facebook friends and having been shaking hands and hugging people I donât know. To say it is exciting is an understatement. Our engagement news was even blogged about by my ever-famous friend, Monica Mingo.
The outpouring of love has been tremendous.
But let me talk about love for a moment. Iâve got âa special kind of loveâ (I have said this throughout our courtship – perhaps a wedding theme, pondering and making a noteâŠ).
I have dated, and I have âdatedâ. And I can say Iâve seen and been in love before. But the depth of love and understanding I am feeling and experiencing in my relationship is something so great, so big, so generous, that even as I sit here it brings tears to my eyes. (I have been crying many tears of joy lately, so let me have it.)
Before meeting my fiancĂ© (said like Dwight on the Real Housewives of ATL), I canât quite pinpoint it, but perhaps I simply gave up. Hell, I was 35 at the time and as I expressed to my favorite aunt recently â about my last relationship which seemed to go and on and on with empty promises (ie. âI âthinkâ I may marry you⊠one day) and no real progress â I began to think âWell, I am approaching age of spinsterhood.  Maybe I am to get in where I fit in and marry him when he finally gets around to asking. Even though he doesnât do this, or say that, or blah, blah, blah.â
I was settling. And deep down I knew it.
He never asked.
A good girlfriend of mine said the other day about our last relationships (both very much the same in a lot of ways â successful men, long distance, etc) that we seemed to become conditioned to accept less, or something. Itâs as if somewhere along the way, the notion of real love became tarnished. Iâve seen my fair share of other relationships fail (hell my own!), rampant cheating, and women cupping large glasses of wine while saying, âeverythingâs fine, everythingâs fine!â when they had no idea I saw their husband hours before out doing unhusbandly things (and some wives doing things too). Not to say I didnât have plenty of great relationship examples, my parents, grandparents, friends and others. But still, dare I say I became a little jaded about love.
Well, jaded and Miss Ali D donât exactly match, by the way. I needed to make some changes. Â First, I walked away from that relationship I was holding onto. And then I tried again. Right on over to Match.com. All I wanted to do is date, and date local. It wasnât exactly a cake walk either, but being open, honest and accepting with myself really helped me stop and discover there are so many great people out there.
Yes, it is about timing, but I also think it’s about really being open to the possiblities. I proclaimed last May I wanted Summer 2009 to be my best summer ever. Donât they say, write it down and make it happen.
It happened.
Love with promises and progress.